When Paul died, our Macmillan Nurse gave me some advice; she said that many people would shower me in sympathy, would offer help and give me advice whether I wanted it or not. She told me to trust my intuition and the right people would be there for me to lean on.
She was right on all points and the people who I could trust were with us, supporting us through a very dark time.
Sympathy can be overpowering and unhelpful, however well-meaning it is and in rejecting it I know I hurt the givers, which wasn't my intention. I am blessed that a few of those I rejected have forgiven me and continue to love me. They offer me nothing but normality mixed with gentleness and expect nothing in return. I thank them for their understanding and in this love them.
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